So, you’ve tied the knot and are now an established married couple. You pulled off the labyrinth of managing catering services, accommodating guest, and maybe found a plus size bridesmaid dress to flatter all shapes for one of your best friends. The hardest part of being hitched is over, right?
Everyone knows that married life comes with its own hurdles, but not everyone is aware of the next major milestone. After the bliss of the honeymoon has ended, the two of you will eventually travel together. Whether its for a family get together or your first vacation, there are few things you should know to make sure this travel experience is a successful one.
Allow Yourselves to Grow
Not everyone’s idea of travel is the same. Some prefer fanciful hotels with nights out on the town while others enjoy backpacking through mountainsides. It’s important to share in one another’s interests, but even more important to view this as a growing experience.
Traveling can tell you a lot about a person and reveals how the two of you will work together in different scenarios. You may find out that your partner has incredible outdoorsy skills, or that they have no fear in trying new foods when on the road.
A new light will be shed on your partner, creating a one-of-a-kind experience that allows your relationship to blossom into something even more beautiful than it is already. Relax and enjoy each other’s company. It will only serve to strengthen the bond between you.
Finding Common Ground
As mentioned above, sharing in one another’s interests is a vital part to any healthy relationship. This first travel experience reveals whether or not the two of you care to explore these interests, which can be a deal breaker.
Ideally, you both practice a little give and take. Each of you has a day devoted to your own particular hobbies or things you like, and the other happily tags along to give this interest a try. It’s when the other partner couldn’t care less or becomes annoyed by the interest that a red flag should pop up.
No one is going to share the love you have for all of your passions, but they need to at least give it a try and allow you to fully enjoy them. If you find that your partner has zero interest to partake in whatever it is you enjoy doing, this trip and your relationship are in big trouble.
There are homebodies and travel junkies in the world, but the two can still maintain a healthy and happy relationship. Some people find themselves in the comforts of their home while others do so on a trip to India or Mt. Kilimanjaro, and you shouldn’t be afraid to take a solo trip if your partner tried out a long-distance trip and didn’t like it.
The problem here lies when the two of you grow as people separately, but no longer grow together as a couple. Your first travel experience will reveal how the two of you like to head outside the comfort of your house and into the world but finding that you aren’t “travel compatible” isn’t a death sentence, so don’t sweat it.
The final piece of this newly married traveling puzzle is how the two of you handle money. How you saved for the trip is the easy part. Maybe you used a savings account, maybe you crowdsourced using a Honeyfund registry, maybe there was a large bonus at work and everything just came together.
How you choose to spend the money when traveling is another story. Does the money go to fancy dinners or visiting every attraction in the area? Is it more important to save a little by walking or is a cab the only way to go? How much should be spent on shopping, wine, or supplies?
Everyone has a different idea about where the cash should go to, and some don’t even think about it. Try to get on the same page during your trip, and work to make sure each person’s favorite place to spend is checked off of the list. If you can handle cash now, you’ll be able to keep your finances on track for decades to come.