Ah, the elusive holiday romance. It’s something we ladies dream of. The chance to walk arm in arm with our new love in an exotic location, totally oblivious to the world around us. Sounds delightful doesn’t it?
Holiday romance is all fun and games, right up until the point that you remember your partner back home.
And so, we ask the universal question: Is it still cheating if it happens across international waters? Or, does what happens in XX country, stay in XX country?
Yes, and no. No matter how you look at or try to spin it, infidelity is infidelity, regardless of geographical location. Of course, while you are away, you’re bound to meet people you like, but the decision to act on it is a different kettle of fish altogether.
Let’s not be too hard on ourselves though. Mistakes can happen and sometimes, meeting a new partner abroad can be the best thing that happens to you. So ladies, relax and I’ll offer my wisdom on the subject of international love affairs.
Your Relationship, Your Decision.
Before you leave, ask yourself some tough questions. Do you really want to be in a relationship while you’re traveling? If in your heart of hearts, the answer is no, then take the plunge and tell your partner. It will make things easier in the long run. Plus, think of all the great experiences you could have as a single gal taking on the world!
If you decide that your love can stand the distance, look into ways to really make being apart easier. Email regularly, send postcards and arrange to Skype when you can. Being apart can do the relationship some good. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, remember?
Don’t let your guard down just because you’re away from home. As with everything when you’re traveling, your safety is vital. Don’t let anyone take advantage or do anything that you are not comfortable with. Similarly, safe sex rules still apply; an unwanted pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections aren’t exactly the best souvenirs. Personally, I’d rather have jewellery.
Don’t be too hard on yourself
Traveling has the potential to change who you are, as you learn and discover more. New experiences help us to mature and grow in ways that we didn’t know possible. So it’s only likely that you’ll be tempted by someone you meet along the way. So don’t beat yourself up too much about it and don’t let it ruin your time away.
If you do cheat on your partner, it doesn’t make you a bad person. Ask yourself what led you to do it as it could mean that something was not right there anyway. Trust me, being apart from a partner is hard, but if everything is hunky dory at home then the chances of cheating are slim.
And you never know, the guy you’ve cheated with, might turn out to be the man of your dreams…stranger things have happened!