Is it Cheating if You’re Traveling?

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Ah, the elusive holiday romance. It’s something we ladies dream of. The chance to walk arm in arm with our new love in an exotic location, totally oblivious to the world around us. Sounds delightful doesn’t it?

Holiday romance is all fun and games, right up until the point that you remember your partner back home.

And so, we ask the universal question: Is it still cheating if it happens across international waters? Or, does what happens in XX country, stay in XX country?

Yes, and no. No matter how you look at or try to spin it, infidelity is infidelity, regardless of geographical location. Of course, while you are away, you’re bound to meet people you like, but the decision to act on it is a different kettle of fish altogether.

Let’s not be too hard on ourselves though. Mistakes can happen and sometimes, meeting a new partner abroad can be the best thing that happens to you. So ladies, relax and I’ll offer my wisdom on the subject of international love affairs.

Your Relationship, Your Decision.

Before you leave, ask yourself some tough questions. Do you really want to be in a relationship while you’re traveling? If in your heart of hearts, the answer is no, then take the plunge and tell your partner. It will make things easier in the long run. Plus, think of all the great experiences you could have as a single gal taking on the world!

If you decide that your love can stand the distance, look into ways to really make being apart easier. Email regularly, send postcards and arrange to Skype when you can. Being apart can do the relationship some good. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, remember?

Safety First

Don’t let your guard down just because you’re away from home. As with everything when you’re traveling, your safety is vital. Don’t let anyone take advantage or do anything that you are not comfortable with. Similarly, safe sex rules still apply; an unwanted pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections aren’t exactly the best souvenirs. Personally, I’d rather have jewellery.

Don’t be too hard on yourself

Traveling has the potential to change who you are, as you learn and discover more. New experiences help us to mature and grow in ways that we didn’t know possible. So it’s only likely that you’ll be tempted by someone you meet along the way. So don’t beat yourself up too much about it and don’t let it ruin your time away.

If you do cheat on your partner, it doesn’t make you a bad person. Ask yourself what led you to do it as it could mean that something was not right there anyway. Trust me, being apart from a partner is hard, but if everything is hunky dory at home then the chances of cheating are slim.

And you never know, the guy you’ve cheated with, might turn out to be the man of your dreams…stranger things have happened!

What do you think? Is it cheating if you’re overseas?

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  1. Hmmm…I’ve only ever been single during my travels but I can see how it would be easy to forget about your bf way back home! I think maybe it’s just best to be single when you travel that way you’re adventures aren’t held back by too many thoughts of home. 🙂

  2. I travelled WITH my boyfriend! Definitely a different experience – in some ways good, in some ways bad. I wouldn’t have enjoyed myself as much with anyone else though, and definitely not on my own.
    In terms of cheating while travelling, I think if what you have is special, it just isn’t likely to be an issue. If you do cheat, there will be a reason why that leads back to the relationship you’re in. Either way, roll with the punches and don’t let guilt ruin your trip – deal with it and get over it, or put it out of mind until you can deal with it.

  3. I have only traveled once with a boyfriend back home and it wasn’t easy. It was a six week trip, I missed him every day, and felt sadder that he couldn’t be there with me. I did still falter once, and made out with a sexy canadian I had become very close with in Panama but I knew it would go no farther than a make-out session, it wasn’t anything as real as what I had back home, but it’s just so different on the road. I never told him about it, I never will, and two years later we are still in the healthiest relationship I have ever been in. I’m not saying what I did was right, he would be heartbroken if he learned it, but I knew it was never going to be anything more than a kiss, and that I would never see the Canadian again. On any longer trips I don’t think it is possible. There is too much temptation in the world of travel, and having someone you miss that is very far away takes half the fun out it!

  4. OF COURSE it’s cheating! If your partner is under the impression that you’re going to be faithful while you’re away, then you’re disrespecting him/her if you don’t honor that, even if he/she never finds out. If you don’t think that you can refrain from fooling around with people that you meet while traveling, you should let your partner know before you leave town. Maybe you can work out an arrangement for when you’re apart, or maybe you’d be better off traveling single.

  5. Travelling is about discovery, of places and yourself. Cheating is not ‘bad’ (someone is going to hate me for that) it is so common that it must be viewed as basic human behaviour (and not just human; swans are NOT monogamous). So what ever happens when you travel, if you ‘arrive’ a better person than before, then it was a valid experience. So long as no one is hurt by it! So dont kiss and tell…kiss and learn or don’t kiss at all.

    • Actually, if you and your partner agree on a monogamous relationship then yes, cheating IS bad. The comments on here are clearly from people that have cheated before — you’re all rationalizing this behaviour.

  6. All these guys can’t be trusted , I was in a relationship with my ex for 2 years, I figured he changed suddenly ever since he went abroad, I wanted a solid evidence to know if he was seeing someone else and I read reviews online about a legit hacker to confirm spouse infidelity. I used (computerworm.hacker@hotmail.com) to confirm that he had been cheating on me with some girl he met abroad. I was able to see his texts,calls log,FB messages and all of the apps on his phone. You can get in contact with him if you need such services. I have confirmed he is totally legit and professional.

  7. I’m astounded by both this article and the comments. Sounds like the author cheated and wants to rationalize her actions. You’re not giving cheaters any responsibility for their actions and say “you must be missing something in the relationship, otherwise it wouldn’t have happened.” Have you ever considered the cheater might have personal issues? Have you ever heard of “victim blaming”? Seriously.

    • Gregory Fulstahd on

      Ha Mike, you really have a lot to learn when it comes to women. And they wonder why they never had equal rights for so long. 😀

      In 30 years everything they fought for will be gone. They do not live by the same moral and ethical code as men. They want equal rights, but not equal responsibilities.

  8. Of course it’s cheating and of course it’s “bad”. If you lead the person behind to believe you’re going to be faithful and expect him/her to be faithful, then it’s just incredibly selfish to cheat. Be honest and open about your intentions or what you do so that at least the one left back at home can also enjoy whatever opportunities might arise.

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